#159: Glin & Tonic - When You Stop Shrinking, Everything Shifts

What happened when I stopped diluting myself and started listening to the quieter voice within

This week, I’ve been wowed by the magic of the universe and the shifts that occur when you raise your frequency.

After last week’s emotional ego death, I wasn’t sure what I’d see change. What I’ve learned is this: when you shift energetically, the world moves fast to match your new vibration.

Our outer world is a mirror for our inner world. I know taking that level of responsibility is scary for some, but I’ve learned first-hand how deeply my internal state is reflected back to me.

It’s why I go so deep on my personal transformation work. I want my outer reality to reflect the big dreams I have and the impact I want to make.

I know I can’t become a New York Times best-selling author if I fear being seen, if I fear my work being criticised, if I fear I’m not good enough. I know that when I stay in my comfort zone and don’t speak up, share my thoughts, or express what I see, I shrink.

That quiet knowing, the one that whispers you’re not honouring your truth, gets louder over time. The void between who you know you came here to be and who you’re currently being grows. And that void can feel overwhelming.

Looking back, I see that last week’s ego death was my body’s way of saying: enough. I’m done pretending. I’m done shrinking. I’m done minimising and hiding parts of myself.

We often think the enemy we fear is ‘out there’ but I’ve learned it’s inside us. It lives in the body.

The voice in my head, the one I sometimes can’t quite place, is it mine? Someone else’s?

I’m learning to discern which voice I need to listen to. It’s not the loudest one. It’s the quieter one. The whisper that can only be heard when I get still enough to listen.

This week, my outer world became a mirror for the shift within me. Since releasing the need to prove or perform and choosing instead to stand in the presence of my wholeness, here’s what happened:

1. An offer of frozen embryos
   Completely out of the blue. A reminder that even when you surrender a dream, the universe can still surprise you. I’d accepted that the motherhood door was closed. But this offer, though I don’t know if it was serious, made me pause. Do I still want to be a mum? I don’t know. I’m 45 and had let that dream go. But maybe there’s still more to unfold here.

    

2. An introduction to the Group CEO of a $70bn business
   This followed a day spent with a sharp executive team, holding space to challenge their negotiation and growth strategy. I wasn’t trying to prove anything. I was simply present. It reminded me how powerful it is to own who you are, to stop shrinking and let your energy speak for you. I’m not attached to where it goes. My cup is full just from being in service, from giving from a place of wholeness and honouring my desire to support good people in doing great work.

    

3. I shared a Human Design insight with a woman who leads a $3bn organisation
   The size of the business didn’t matter. What mattered was the depth of the exchange. In rooms like that, it’s easy to feel the pressure to be more ‘professional’ and less ‘woo’. I used to hold back. But this time, I didn’t. I brought all of me and was met with genuine curiosity and openness. It reminded me that people in powerful positions are often quietly seeking something deeper too. When you stop diluting who you are, the right people feel it, even in places you once thought you had to hide.

I’m not sharing this to impress. I’m sharing it to show how quickly your reality can shift when you do the inner work.

I’ve stopped hiding. I’ve stopped playing small in spaces I thought were reserved for others. I’m owning my light, the way I work, and my full capability — both analytical and intuitive.

What I released last week was fear. Fear of failure. Fear of the future. Fear of being who I am.

And while the work isn’t done, and I’ll go through many more deaths and rebirths, I know this is part of the journey to becoming the NYT best-selling author I see in my vision.

I want to be interviewed by Oprah about this future book. She’s already 70. That gives me less than a decade to make it happen.

Whether I reach that dream or not, what I do know is that the woman I’ll become in pursuit of it will be someone I’m proud of. And that makes it all worth it.

I’m on my way. The vision is getting clearer. The next book is calling me forward, and I know I’ll need to listen to the quiet voice within to write it.

I’m not there yet. But I’m becoming her.

And maybe you are too.

Maybe you're in a moment right now where your own voice feels hard to hear. Maybe you're shrinking without even realising it. Maybe a part of you knows you’re meant for more, but fear has been the one making the decisions.

If that’s where you are, I want you to know you’re not alone.

Your next chapter doesn’t require perfection. It just asks for presence. A willingness to listen to the quieter voice within, the one that already knows.

So I’ll ask you what I’m asking myself:

What truth are you ready to stop hiding from?

And who might you become if you gave yourself permission to be seen?

If you're ready to stop shrinking and start listening to the quieter voice within, exploring your Human Design might be a powerful next step.

The Human Design report I’ve shared is free for now, but only for a few more days. I’ll be evolving how I offer this report, so if it’s been on your heart to explore, now’s the time.

Click here to view your chart

Keep going and keep growing.

Love Glin x

P.S. Three wins from my week:

1. I completed my Ethical Influencer Practitioner Certification with the Cialdini Institute. I’ve studied negotiation and influence for years, but this deepened my understanding of how we shape behaviour with integrity. Influence isn’t about pressure. It’s about clarity, trust, and ethical framing. I’ll be integrating this into how I teach negotiation, leadership, and the art of inner persuasion.

2. I witnessed the power of story and presence. At a charity gala for the Humpty Dumpty Foundation, I listened to three remarkable Australians share their lived experiences. Jacqui Cooper, a five-time Winter Olympian in aerial skiing, spoke of resilience through loss, injury and reinvention. Kurt Fearnley, a Paralympian and fierce advocate, shared what it means to lead from heart, not circumstance. And Jo Griggs, patron of the foundation, reminded us of the strength in showing up with humanity. What moved me most wasn’t their success - it was their truth.

3. Peace in my heart. After the emotional release of last week, this felt like the quietest and most meaningful win. A stillness I didn’t realise I was craving.